Description
The Four Agreements
1. Be impeccable with your word
This agreement means speaking with integrity, saying only what you mean, and using the power of your word constructively. It advises against using words to speak negatively about yourself or to gossip about others. By being impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions without blaming or judging yourself.
2. Don’t take anything personally
Ruiz explains that nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. By not taking things personally, you become immune to the opinions and actions of others, which prevents you from suffering needlessly.
3. Don’t make assumptions
This agreement encourages you to find the courage to ask questions and express what you truly want. Humans are prone to making assumptions, which can lead to misunderstandings, drama, and sadness. Communicating clearly is the antidote to making assumptions and can transform your life.
4. Always do your best
Your best is not a static measure; it will fluctuate depending on your circumstances. This agreement is about doing your best in each moment without self-judgment or guilt. By always doing your best, you avoid regret and give yourself the opportunity for compassion and growth.
Core concepts
The book’s philosophy hinges on several main ideas:
- Domestication: Ruiz argues that from a young age, humans are “domesticated” by society through a system of rewards and punishments. This process instills limiting beliefs, such as an unrealistic need for perfection, and can cause needless suffering.
- Agreements with ourselves: We make countless agreements throughout our lives with ourselves, others, and society. The most important ones are those we make with ourselves, which define our self-worth and potential.
- Breaking old agreements: The purpose of adopting the Four Agreements is to break the self-limiting beliefs and fears that keep us from experiencing joy.
History and impact
- The Four Agreements was first published in 1997 and became a international bestseller, appearing on The New York Times list for over a decade.
- It gained significant popularity after Oprah Winfrey endorsed it on her show in 2001 and again in 2013.
- Ruiz and his son, Don Jose Ruiz, later published a follow-up book, The Fifth Agreement, which offers a deeper perspective on the original teachings
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